New Year’s resolutions. New year, new you … right? Every single year I get this hovering feeling of what big goal I need to make for the upcoming year … or what theme my year is going to be surrounded by. I hate it. I hate the stress that we put over ourselves to commit to doing better at something, losing weight, or making our year more fabulous than the last. I think having goals is fantastic. It’s important to set goals in life, however, I can’t help but feel that New Year’s resolutions have a stigma associated with them that you need to reach for the largest thing you can think of. We have an unfound idea of seeking goals that are not necessarily attainable for where we are at in our life, or with the type of schedule we have.

I have had almost every type of goal out there. Lose weight. Get fit. Pay off debt. Save so much money. The list goes on and on. I have tried everything. Budgeting spreadsheets, journaling, signing up for gym memberships and by the end of each year I’m overwhelmed and disappointed that I didn’t fully commit and follow through with my large goals, or I have literally forgotten what they were.

Instead of getting sucked into creating a goal that seems unattainable to me I’m choosing to do a shortlist of goals that I’m going to do throughout the year that will bring me gratification. I’m going to choose things that if I don’t succeed at them daily, I won’t feel guilty over it. I’m going to choose things that are meaningful to me and not someone around me. And lastly, I’m choosing things that I find important.

Whether you decide to make an actual resolution for 2020 take time to really think about your past year and blessings you have had throughout it. If you feel like you would have done something differently think about what you could have done differently, or how you could have changed the end result. We don’t have control over everything that happens in our lives, and even the things that we do have control over should be a learning experience. We should never guilt ourselves over our experiences … both positive and negative ones.

Here are a few things … goals … changes … whatever you want to call them that I’m going to be attempting to incorporate to make myself healthier and happier than ever! What are you going to do differently in 2020?

Be more intentional about spreading acts of kindness. Kindness goes a long way, and acts of kindness fill up my own personal cup. I know that I get so caught up in life that I forget to go out of my way and bless others throughout the year.

Do one thing each month that is self-care for me. It might be as easy at reading, buying myself a coffee or just taking one hour to have alone time for myself. Or maybe you’re going to plan a “mom-cation” with a few friends. Self-care as a mom is so important and really helps us reset and refocus on priorities in our lives. In order to be a good mom, we need to take care of ourselves as well.

Make a new recipe each month. I would love to try a new one each week, but honestly, I don’t think I can commit myself to that with the way our schedule usually is. Once enough is especially doable for my family and our current commitments. By no means am I a good cook, but I would love to take time in our family and try new meals together. This might be difficult during our season of sports, but certainly more doable doing it monthly.

This may also go with self-care, but I’ve recently gotten back into running. This is something that I enjoy doing. I’m not looking to lose weight, or increase my fitness lifestyle. I feel rejuvenated after I go for a good run. I have noticed the last few months that as time has gotten busier, I have missed out on opportunities to run. For 2020 I’m not going to let that happen. I’m going to make it a goal to find time 3-4 times a week to go for a minimum 45-minute run to refresh my mind.

Momma, I hope you are able to create goals for yourself that fit your schedule, your heart and the desire you have for them. Don’t get caught up in other people’s goals or resolutions. You make 2020 your year by doing you and being the best you that you can be. Reflect on your desires, what you want out of the year and how you can succeed at them. Don’t put the insane pressures that can sometimes come with the idea of a new year, new you.

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Kristi Bricker
Kristi relocated to St. Augustine from Pennsylvania. She has been married for 15 years to her High School sweetheart, Andy. Together they have 3 kids, Eli (13), Liam (7) and Lacey (3). Kristi has a B.A. in Human Development and Family Studies and her Masters degree in Christian Counseling: Crisis Response and Trauma. She enjoys ALL the donuts and is a firm believer that cake should always be eaten for breakfast. She is a social butterfly and loves spending time with friends and family. She really loves baking and crafting and has recently found a love for running. She enjoys being the go-to friend when you’re having a bad day and needing to vent. Kristi also enjoys tasting different coffees at the local coffee shops, but the Kookaburra is her go-to.