Maybe this idea is second nature to you, “of course I let my kids wear what they want for Halloween!” or maybe you are more like me and have Halloween daydreams about your entire family dressing up in matching Pinterest-perfect costumes. Before my kids could start asking for what they wanted to dress up as, I loved coming up with costumes for them. That was short-lived and only lasted until they were 2 when my son refused to wear his lizard costume and trick-or-treated (to my horror) with no costume at all. Since then I have learned to lighten up, and let them dress as (or not dress as) whatever they want. The requests have been pretty easy so far- superman, butterfly, alligator, and ballerina. I give myself bonus points for either buying the costumes second hand, borrowing from a friend, or putting it together from things we already had.

When it comes to dressing the other 364 days of the year, I love the idea of dressing them as little mini fashionable adults and secretly wish they would let me do so, but in the end, they love their super mario or princess t-shirt grandma gave them and really it’s OK with me.

Both my kids are pretty opinionated about what they want to wear, just in totally different ways. With my son, it’s all about comfort. Skinny boy jeans? In your dreams, mom. My daughter, on the other hand, is opinionated based on the style of her clothes. She pretty much wants to wear dresses or skirts every day. I interject very little when it comes to their fashion choices. Hopefully, I can keep this up throughout the tween/teen years, but that feels like a far off galaxy I don’t want to venture to just yet. When I look at life from their perspective, there are so many daily choices being made for them – when to eat, what to eat, when to go to bed, how much screen time they get, allowing them this small freedom of choice is much easier to do.

I’ll leave you with one of my favorite ensembles of theirs from last year. Happy Halloween!