You can do anything, but you can’t do everything.
I am not sure who wrote that saying, but the very first time I heard it I instantly connected. I have a type-A personality, and to know me is to know that asking for help just isn’t a strength of mine. In fact, I have learned in my 30 plus years of living out this life here on Earth that in today’s society, women, in general, do not lean on others. Asking for help can often be seen as a sign of weakness. But is it, really? Or is it a sign of realizing that this life is meant to be lived out together, in relationships, creating the ability to do anything, but not everything?
If you are a mom, a wife, sister, businesswoman, teacher, fill in the blank I could almost guarantee that you often feel the need to juggle a million responsibilities. Throughout your day you throw on several different hats, stretching yourself to the max. Thus, at the end of the day feel empty with little steam to make it one more second past your daily finish line. Before too long you may experience burnout, will find yourself grasping at straws, and the feeling of satisfaction will be somewhere in a distant memory.
I have to tell you friend, and I know you already know this. But this life is not meant to be lived that way. We are meant to live out our purpose to the fullest, and be filled with all this life has to offer. It is time we as women prioritize our calling and purpose. In case no one has ever shared with you, right now at this moment, I want you to be assured that you have been called for greatness. You were designed with a purpose in mind. You were called to this life, filled with gifts that only you possess, with a story that was written for only you to play out the main character.
We must embrace knowing that we can do anything we set our minds to, but we cannot do everything. We weren’t called to. It is important in our purpose to filter out the “noise” this life demands of us, and fully focus on what we have been called to do. It is also important that we are confident enough in our calling that we are willing to ask for help when we need it.
When my son, who has a Rare Metabolic Disorder known as PKU, was three months old, I vividly remember being so overwhelmed by all that was needed to care for him, that I laid on our kitchen floor crying out for help. My husband said something to me that forever has stuck in my memory. I cried out saying “I can’t do this by myself.” His response? “I don’t know why you are trying to.”
We are gifted people in this life that are meant to help support us in carrying out our purpose. These people are the ones you find in your darkest hours, cheering you on every step of the way, lending a hand without needing to ask. You just have to be willing to allow it. Don’t spend this life trying to carry out your purpose solo. Help is not a weakness my friend. In fact, it is strength in knowing your purpose, and that life is meant to be lived out together, in relationships, creating the ability to do anything, but not everything.